Rewarding Kids’ Little Achievements
Usually, only the big accomplishments are the ones that often got our attention such as a report card with flying colors. However, whether big or small an accomplishment is, there has to be a reward for kids as small daily victories for them is already a milestone for them that lead to major successes eventually.
However, as many moms do, a lot of us most likely think so hard about how to reward our kids little milestones since a lot of us don’t have lots of materials things to offer. Nevertheless, the fact that we probably don’t realize is that we don’t need such material things for a reward as we have to teach them that real rewards are internal and not possessions.
Here are some proven and tested strategies for recognizing smaller achievements and for teaching that feeling proud of their selves is the greatest reward of all.
Praises and complements
Praises and good complements can teach the kids to control the good feelings that come from trying to do their best on their own.
Be sincere when you give praises but give praises only to accomplishments that deserve attention. A “Good for you” complement will do for such accomplishment.
Give hugs and kisses. Even if it is just a small gesture and non-verbal, it is very effective. Hugs and kisses when given as a reward to a good behavior go a long way.
Repeat accomplishments back to kids so they could understand exactly what was done well. Giving complements like “You made your bed,” with a smile is a simple confirmation to the kids that it is an accomplishment.
Treating them like one of the big kids
By simply talking with the kids already creates an accomplishment dialogue which provides them a voice in their own growth.
During bed time, before going to sleep, review the accomplishments of the day such as participating during a class recitation. One good reward for that is to create a space for Mommy-daughter time to talk about why overcoming obstacles feel good outside of the reward.
Make them understand the cause and effect. Show your child the link between facing an obstacle and the high five or the pat on the back that comes afterwards. As an adult in the house, let the kids see you exchanging pats on the back or having high five against each other.
Be attentive. Not only physical good deeds shall be rewarded, but the emotional accomplishments as well.